As I walk the streets and experience the events of everyday life in Korea, I've found myself wondering about my life had I never been adopted. While never for a minute do I regret my adoption (from my perspective, it's one of the best things that ever happened to me), I am curious about whether living here would've changed my personality today.
My adoption story is probably much different than the experiences of most adoptee reunions since my birth father eventually got back on his feet and seems to be making a good living. So, I probably would not have lived in poverty my entire life had I stayed in Korea. From SangKwun's explanation of his life, I would assume my life would've followed his and I would've lived in the countryside for most of my young childhood with extended family. SangKwun talks about catching fish with his bare hands, I wonder if I would've been more of a tomboy if I grew up in that environment?
Probably around the age of 11 or 12 I probably would've come back to Seoul to live with my birth father (like SangKwun did). One thing I think is interesting is that my birth father, SangKwun, and I seem to have many similar personality faults. (These are easier to see than the positive personality traits.) We are all somewhat stubborn, are terrible with directions, and have tempers (mostly around people we're closest to). I wonder if the three of us living in the same household with these traits would've made us understand each other more or butt heads a lot? Would we still be close today or would these traits in each of us cause a divide?
Finally, I grew up in a house with happily married parents. If I lived in Korea, I would be the child of divorce, as my birth father has been divorced twice. I wonder if this would've changed my outlook on love and marriage? (Though SangKwun seems to be madly in love with Emily and plans to marry her someday.)
These are just thoughts running through my head. I know I'll never know for sure, but I like to think I'd be the same person I am now, just with different cultural norms. (And a much stronger preference for rice and kimchi!)
What do you think?